And for two, it might make him wake up when he sees that you aren’t just sitting around waiting for him to call for a hookup.
You’re out there looking for something real and meaningful. Is he only texting late at night when he wants sex?
On the one hand, I am a strong, confident woman, and I know what I want!
On the other, I’m definitely not giving every potential partner a fair shot, and I’m giving guys who aren’t really right for me way too much of my heart too soon. But we’re also human, you and I, and when all our romantic energy is directed at just one person (even when it’s “so low-key”) we will not be able to keep things casual forever. Things like physical and emotional boundaries can help keep a relationship casual, but keeping more than one person in the mix will also keep feelings in check and remind you that you’re “out there” as much for yourself as for the people you might meet.
But sometimes what you need and want changes as you get to know a guy. This is such a hot topic for my Sexy Confident readers that I’ve designed a FREE Casual to Committed Blueprint video series to help you quickly identify men who are contenders for a long-term relationship, and help you get exactly what you want. You hate the idea of scaring this guy off if he is in no way interested in a more meaningful relationship with you…but at the same time, things have changed for you and can never go back to the way they were.
If you’re ready to take what’s been, up until this point, casual to committed, take a look at this video and read my sage advice below. Let me tell you this: I personally have been in casual relationships with women that turned into serious ones. But rather than kiss and tell stories about the women who failed to get me to commit for one reason or another, let’s look at some tips you can use when you’re ready to talk to your guy about going from casual to committed.
When you’ve made up your mind to “explore,” let your dates know. The more you allow yourself to look inward with honesty and reflect upon your choices and the patterns you see, the better chance you have of knowing the person who is right for you with Coach Taylor levels of clarity.Remind yourself that it’s come to a point where you can’t tolerate things continuing the way they’ve been up until now.Your feelings have changed, and so have your needs. You won’t be able to change his mind down the road, and staying with a man who has told you he only wants to keep things casual will only fracture your heart more and more in the future.)He needs to see you from a different perspective in order for this shift from casual to committed to happen successfully.Up until now, you’ve been his Wednesday Night Lay or his FWB, and it’ll take a little work to make him Those people surveyed showed that they sacrificed a bit for their FWB, and were often devoted to them. That’s good news if you’re working on a casual to committed conversion!I am the world’s biggest believer that every romantic paramour—however briefly they may stay—comes into your life for a reason.Some are there to remind you when you deserve more from a relationship than you’re getting.Maybe you just needed to feel a different person’s hand in yours.Even the casual guys that seem to drift in and out of your life as warm and brief as a summer weekend mean something.You’ve got to be in a state of mind where you’re willing to walk away when you talk to him about shifting things from casual to committed. Get out now while it’s still relatively easy to do so!, since clearly, he’s not getting as much bootie as he used to.I can’t seem to tie said feelings down anywhere in between “no” and “ahhh omg so much yes!”I’ve come to decide that this is both good and bad.Sometimes the chemistry’s wrong (fine for sex but not for long-term compatibility).