if it weren’t for your disability.” I would often reply to them: “Well my disability is always going to be a part of me, so it was nice getting to know you, but I don’t think we could continue to get to know each other.” I firmly believe that if more people would take the time to research the needs of those with disabilities and understand what the disability is — whether it be muscular dystrophy, spina bifida, cerebral palsy, autism, ADHD, or mental health conditions — they would be more open to dating someone with a disability.
Besides doing research, it’s up to the person to see the other person’s beauty inside the heart, because looks don’t matter at the end of the day.
I would be lying to you if I said dating is easy when you have a disability. By knowing your genuine self and personality, you are more out to find someone who is right for you. You can’t expect a partner to make you happy and maintain your happiness.
It’s not and can be awkward, disappointing and plain old frustrating. I will offer my own advice based on my own personal experiences and observations. Be happy on your own, and then you definitely know you’re ready to make the next steps.
I also was annoyed at my cerebral palsy that when I felt attracted to someone, my spasms would react to my emotions. But all of this came from my perspective, not theirs.
They didn’t know my body in the first place, so if I seemed more spastic, they didn’t know any better.
Unfortunately, nothing can shelter you from heartbreak, disability or not. It might take time, even years, to find someone who fits you, but do not settle.
When someone shows interest in you, it’s exciting, awesome, thrilling and happy. Trust me, there are many people out there who will love you for being you.
I haven’t had the best track record when it comes to dating.
I feel that’s mostly because I wind up “catching feelings” for men who weren’t open to learning about my disability.
The hottest guy ever can be a complete jerk, and the guy who looks like Steve Urkel could have a good heart, have strong feelings for you, and treat you like a queen.
I always said to my girlfriends when I was going to school that I would never be with somebody with cerebral palsy like myself. Now I feel sorry for saying that and having that mindset because I am currently going steady with my boyfriend Austin, who has spastic cerebral palsy.