It’s better to know what to look for and bail out early then waste years of your life with a widower who’s not ready to make you the center of his universe.
The Widower Hides You from Family and Friends It’s not easy for a widower to let friends and family know there’s a new woman in his life – especially when many of them are still grieving over the late wife’s passing.
He treats you right and gives you all the outward signs that he loves you but an “I love you” has yet to part his lips.
It’s not always easy for men to express what’s in their hearts.
Nothing, however, can take the place of a sincere “I love you.” If the widower you’re dating can’t tell you that he loves you and mean it, you risk being a passing fancy with nothing to show for the relationship other than memories and a broken heart.
He Refuses to Talk About His Grief It’s not a secret that men don’t like talking about their feelings.
Often the person is immortalized through online memorial sites, photos, or even literal shrines to that person.
You Remind the Widower of His Late Wife Widowers are naturally attracted to people that remind them of their recently departed wife.But you should be reach a point where you both feel comfortable talking about the progress (or lack thereof) that he’s making in regards to his grief. It’s a process of working together and understand when and how to approach the other person.If he can’t or won’t tell you occasionally the progress he’s making as far as moving on, you risk waking up one day and realizing that he’s still in great sorrow and you’ll never have a place in his heart.He will find a way to introduce you to family and friends.Don’t worry whether friends and family will approve of you.We become accustomed to things being done a certain way.In relationships – especially those that have lasted many years – one becomes used to the spouse’s habits and ways of doing things.But they will express them when the feelings are strong enough.Anyone can give you flowers or a memorable night on the town.He’s probably worried that they’ll think he’s moving on too fast or, perhaps, won’t be open to the idea of seeing him with someone else.He might also be concerned that this new relationship will cause friction with other family and friends who are still mourning.He’ll find a way to make his home and other places you frequent together a place where you’ll feel comfortable. He Won’t Tell You That He Loves You The widower sends you cards, flowers, and chocolates.You have great dates and fun-filled romantic weekends together.These worries and concerns are natural, but they’re no excuse.