This means that HCPs continuously draw their exes into their internal turmoil and drama regardless of the divorce and subsequent re-coupling.Reality does not matter to the HCP, so it has to matter to you if you want any subsequent relationship to last and thrive.
It may not seem like a big deal, but it sends a message to your new partner that she is an intruder.
He described divorcing his HCP first wife as “being paroled from prison.” While going through his divorce, he met a woman who he thought was “the ONE.” In his estimation, he’d finally found someone who could offer all the love and affection he’d been missing during his 6-year prison-sentence of a marriage.
In hindsight, this relationship was his “transitional” relationship; a relationship that helped re-build his self-esteem until he realized it wasn’t meant to be a long-term proposition.
2) Don’t allow your HCP ex to portray your new love interest as “the other woman.” While it’s important to keep your dating life separate from your HCP ex, it’s equally important that you not hide any serious girlfriends or significant others from the HCP.
This may sound like contradictory advice and, in a sense, it is.