Or ditch the regular hard-partying rockers for a quiet, bookish fella.
The change of pace may be enough to jumpstart your stalled love life and give you a new perspective, even if you go back to your usual cast of characters in the end.
Cultivate Your “Gaggle”The “gaggle” concept, coined by Massa and her best friend/business partner Rebecca Wiegand, refers to “the group of guys in your life who you might not be dating, but who play different roles, fulfill different needs and help you figure out who you are and what you want.” That could include your coworker, your crush, even your cute barista.
The key is to not look at every guy you meet as a potential soul mate, says the author.
(FYI: Ryan Gosling enjoying long walks on the beach is already taken.) Cut and paste images, quotes, anything inspiring to an old-school bulletin board or go digital with Pinterest.
As you date, add and remove items to get a clearer picture of how you see your romantic future.
But it also means you need to say yes to spontaneous invites and no to couch time with your cat.“Often you get too close to yourself,” she adds, “and you don’t see your amazing traits.” Enter your BBFs, who can help you brainstorm a pitch-perfect profile ideas and set up a DIY photo shoot to capture some come-hither pics.Go on a Hunt Let’s face it, you’re always on the prowl for Mr.Dubbed the straight version of Grindr (but more than just a hook-up finder), Blendr connects you with local singletons on the go, while Ok Cupid’s mobile app lets you broadcast and browse nearby activity suggestions and message a member if something catches your eye.Similarly, How About We allows you to post and respond to date ideas based on where you are.Throw a Profile Party Gather up your gal pals, pour some Pinot Grigio and get typing.Like a bachelorette party before a wedding, throw a fiesta before you take the plunge into digital dating, proposes cyber dating expert Julie Spira, author of .Book a Bunch of “Non-Dates”For better or worse, dating ain’t what is used to be (sigh).Men and women are connecting in more ambiguous ways, explains Massa.Right, even if you tell yourself, “I’m just going to have fun tonight.” So instead of pretending you’re not looking, make it a true pursuit the next time you and your friends walk into a bar.Compile a goofy scavenger hunt list with items like, “get a bearded fella’s phone number” or “buy a drink for the guy flying solo.” Plus, it makes an easy-peasy ice breaker and an instant convo starter, so you don’t have to freak out about making the first move. Dress the Part You know how they say if you buy cute workout gear, you’ll be inspired to exercise more and actually like it? If you’re newly single or just want a fresh start, treat yourself to a mini makeover.Take It Offline Don’t get stuck in a lengthy back-and-forth messaging marathon with a potential online date, cautions Jessica Massa, author of .Aim to meet in person as soon as possible to determine if there’s chemistry, recommends the author.Plus, there’s a practical twist: teen-inspired date ideas are usually easy on the wallet!