We did live-together for a year and she had an engagement ring on that whole year. Neither of us has ever had a moment of regret or wished we had taken more time. I wouldn't recommend it for people in their 20's but we are living proof that it can work.Actually we got married exactly 1 year to the day that I asked her to marry me. I think what matters more is that the couple are marriage minded and will make the commitment and any compromises that need to be made to make it work.After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.I knew my wife for 1 week (yes, I said 1) and ask her to marry me. We were both older and had been in several long term relationships over the years. We knew what we wanted, what we didn't want, and neither of us had any interest in getting into the long term rut of simply living together, again, without making a real commitment.In the beginning it was all about her SO, now she hardly mentions him.Honestly, I think some people are afraid of being alone. Its not some fairy tale where both people hold hands into the sunset. I don't know anyone who has stayed married who has not had to encounter some very tough obstacles including infidelity, addiction, emotional/verbal/physical abuse, neglect, money problems, etc. For some, that may come very soon, for others, take much longer.It was not the length of time I was worried about but attachments I may be making and the ability to pry myself away.For many people it may as well be 3 months because they become so attached they overlook anything.
There is the odd socio-path in which case it rarely matters how much time. My brother's first wife said he should not marry her. I think that they're both just "fast-movers." Of course I respect their decision - but I'm completely baffled as to why some people get engaged so quickly...it's one of the biggest decisions of our lives, so why rush it?
We planned the wedding for 6 months and we are still married (over 3 years) with a 1 year old and trying for number 2.
I would say the first 6 months with a baby was the hardest.
We aren't alike, but we share the same dreams and values.
Communication is always the thing you have to just work out - doesn't matter what you fight about, rather how you fight.