When people make the Argument from Naturalness they tend to mean something like: Men like to pursue and earn a woman’s attention.
But in truth, a guy doesn’t mind if he gets the initial attention from the woman.
It’s easy, fun, and something you can do anytime, anywhere.
If this idea feels insane to you, just start as small as possible.
Even if being able to approach a woman did boost a guys masculinity, there are a dozen other ways a man can be made to feel masculine, so it’s pretty much irrelevant who approaches.
Premise 2: The idea that ‘men ought to approach women’ is a strong idea held by most of mainstream society.
Conclusion: Men do like the idea of women approaching them, and CANNOT be attracted to women who take the initiative to approach. The conclusion does not follow at all from either Premise 1 or Premise 2, yet these are two of the most common reasons that make women averse to the idea of ever starting a conversation with a man.
Did that first sentence define your entire future relationship dynamic? In my experience, most women either feel either (a) it is just not their job to approach a man, or (b) they would potentially approach a man, but worry that it will kill their desirability, because it seems desperate and needy.
Let’s briefly survey (and destroy) these and some of the other arguments that arise when people explain why women can’t approach men: Men have always approached women. Go back to any time in history, from the Middle Ages to the 1950’s, and you see the same ideal: The man’s job is to approach and pursue a woman, and hope she chooses him. Go back to the Middle Ages and you’ll also see rampant sexism and women who had no political or economic power, yet the fact that these are ‘traditional beliefs’ can’t convince us that these were good things.