Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and conventional wisdom both suggest that love is a fundamental human need. A survey conducted in 2013 found that 77% of people considered it “very important” to have their smartphones with them at all times.Most people meet their significant others through their social circles or work/school functions. In the search for a potential date, more and more people are switching to less traditional methods. With the rise and rise of apps like Tinder (and the various copycat models) who could blame them.
One of the big problems with online dating for women is that, although there are genuine relationship-seeking men on the sites, there are also plenty of guys on there simply looking for sex.More and more of us insist on outsourcing our love-lives to spreadsheets and algorithms.According to the Pew Research Center, the overwhelming majority of Americans suggest that online dating is a good way to meet people.While dishonesty was slightly less prevalent among the British sample, 44% did admit to lying in their online profile.In both the US and UK samples, dishonesty declined with age.Drive yourself to the date (your date doesn’t need to know where you live), keep an eye on your drink/food (…), pay half of the bill (you don’t need your date having expectations of repayment) Of course there are plenty more do’s and do not’s of online dating but I guess the most important thing here is to use your common sense. You don’t necessarily have to develop a ‘trust no-one and sleep with 1 eye open’ approach to online dating, but it is probably worthwhile having a healthy degree of skepticism in general.Never mind the fact that more than one-third of all people who use online dating sites have never actually gone on a date with someone they met online, those that somehow do manage to find someone else they are willing to marry AND who is willing to marry them (a vanishingly tiny subset of online daters) face an uphill battle.Over 20% of women posted photos of their younger selves. Their most common lies revolved around their financial situation, specifically, about having a better job (financially) than they actually do.More than 40% of men indicated that they did this, but the tactic was also employed by nearly a third of women.Many are just ‘fad’ applications that squeeze money from punters with no intention of matching you with a suitable partner. Most people probably wouldn’t be surprised to learn that it’s more common for people to lie in their online profile than be completely honest.Before you throw caution to the wind and empty your wallet into the pockets of an online app with the reckless abandon of a love-struck teenager, there are a few things you should know. A study of over 1,000 online daters in the US and UK conducted by global research agency Opinion Matters founds some very interesting statistics.A total of 53% of US participants admitted to having lied in their online dating profile.Women apparently lied more than men, with the most common dishonesties being about looks.The US Association of Psychological Science found that reviewing multiple candidates causes people to be more judgmental, and inclined to dismiss a not-quite-perfect candidate than they otherwise would be in a face-to-face meeting. Many of the pictures of the women I have met had much younger pictures on their profile.