Sometimes it feels like everything’s going by very slowly, and there aren’t always clear road signs. This is because, in Australia, there aren’t formal dating rules like in some cultures.
Australians aren’t big on rules – unless it’s Aussie Rules Football.
This gives you some room to get to know each other before you make up your minds.
Firstly, it doesn’t matter if you’re a boy or a girl, anyone can approach anyone.
The first time I met someone I was interested in post-break-up, none of those rules were relevant.This makes for a pretty fun and flexible dating culture, which forces people to get to know one another.We’ve answered some common questions from international students to help you navigate the Australian dating scene.But what I didn’t expect, and what nobody warned me about, was the sexism.With feminism almost universally embraced, I had long assumed that anyone I’d be interested in hanging out with would know that the traditional, heterosexual dating rules are ridiculous.We had sex, texted, and hung out without counting the hours between messages or playing hard to get. In a scenario familiar to millions of people, yet honestly surprising to me, I had sex with a guy (we’ll call him Dan) and never heard from him again.I didn’t know him well and certainly wasn’t emotionally invested, but the interaction still rankled me.Hence the friendliness that oils our interactions with fitness instructors, former co-workers, friends-of-friends, and hairdressers. But while friends were quick to call Dan a jerk, it’s not fair to wave off this behavior as straightforward rudeness.He didn’t seem particularly like a jerk, and almost certainly doesn’t think of himself as one.I can tell when a connection over drinks turns a colleague into a friend, or when you’re putting in the time with a family acquaintance and you just don’t jell.Even when the spark’s not totally there, polite society dictates a certain common courtesy.It’s a useful intermediary in a culture that stresses getting to know people first, and sending someone a friend request is a nice way of saying that you’d like to do just that.We hope you’re now feeling a little more prepared to enter the world of Australian dating. As a general rule, whoever suggested the outing should at least, offer to pay first.