Or you even feel obligated to respond, but don’t really know what to say, or don’t really care about how his day was, because, let’s be honest, you hardly know the guy. He says when you’ll be in contact, or seeing each other for a date. Maybe you should reach out and take the pressure off of him to initiate contact all the time.Slowly he wins you over, you start anticipating his calls or texts, looking forward to them even. Yeah, he’s not making plans so why don’t you suggest a couple things, and then at least you’ll have some plans booked together. Now for every message he sends, you send three, you are pursuing and he is waiting to respond. What creates bonding during the dating and courting process is the masculine pursues, provides and experiences being successful with the feminine, who receives, responds & is provided for.
Enter feelings of neediness, especially if they have been physically intimate, she has produced a ton of oxytocin (bonding hormone) and has become more attached to him.
However, this quickly devolves into, if she is going to make the effort/plans, he can sit back and become more passive.
Sounds benign but it is deadly where passion and connection are concerned.
As much as we love being won over, masculine men love winning us over, it is the ultimate validation for them, and leaves them coming back for more.
Therefore, to minimize the masculine need to pull away, it is best to increase intimacy slooowly.